If this article helps you or has kept you from becoming the victim of a scam (or sending him even more money), please consider donating to help maintain this website so that others will be able to utilize this information as well. It’s true that special ops guys can’t discuss their job but that also means they don’t tell random strangers they’re in special ops. When we would go out with a bunch of guys from his unit and people would ask what they did, they simply replied they were in the Army. They’re known as “quiet professionals” for a reason. He has been deployed for two years, has been denied leave time and will not be coming home any time soon therefore you won’t be able to meet. He is on a top secret mission in a country other than Iraq or Afghanistan (or even in Iraq or Afghanistan – it’s all lies).If there were soldiers being denied leave after being overseas for years at a time, it would be ALL over the news. Now, we certainly do have troops in other countries.
If you don’t want to read the rest of this article, there is one surefire way to know if your soldier is fake: If a soldier you’re “dating” online asks you for money for ANY reason, it’s a scam. What he really means is she’s going to be his next victim. He is in a special operations unit and therefore cannot share any information with you.
And he is the one who just happened to find her while he was looking around and decided she’s going to be his future wife.
Then the supposed CO sends back a letter asking for money to connect a phone line or some other complete lie. He says one of the following…parents died, his wife died in his arms, his wife was killed in a car accident along with all of his children, his children are orphaned and living in some remote location, or he was orphaned……all LIES. And I mean if this was for real and that kind of luck follows him, why do you want to be with him? He says he doesn’t have a mailing address because either he is in a classified unit or his position changes so often.
Even in special operations, he’ll have an APO address.
This usually also includes stories about being a higher ranking officer. Real officers have even LESS time to be online talking to strangers over the internet. He has a child that is dying or needs surgery (or some other medical emergency) and he needs the money to pay for it. On top of that, Generals make a minimum of ,000 per month in JUST base pay. Many have been provided pictures, copies of military identification cards, even videos.
All military dependents are covered by Tricare, which for the most part is amazing insurance. Real soldiers aren’t paying out of pocket for their kid’s medical care. First, pictures can be grabbed from anywhere on the internet – there’s no guarantee you’re talking to that person. Some use totally fake pictures in uniforms that are all messed up – I’ve seen Army uniforms with Air Force tapes and Navy insignia – no joke.
And you don’t have to send it through a relative because he can’t give out his address. He says he needs you to pay for his R&R leave because the Army doesn’t pay for it. A real soldier will not request money to travel home as he doesn’t need it!
The Army pays for all travel to and from a war zone.
However, they don’t talk about it and they certainly don’t tell you they are on a “top secret mission”. He says he is not allowed to talk about what he does, however, he has cleared it with his CO that he can tell you enough to make you believe he is who he says. If he truly is not allowed to share any details about his job, his CO doesn’t even allow him to talk about it with family, much less someone he met on the internet.
Also, any special operations soldier worth his beret will not reveal his location to someone he doesn’t know (or even someone he does! Sometimes with this tactic, they will ask you to email/send mail to the CO to ask for permission. I know some very unlucky people but this is just over the top.
And this is not a post office box and it’s not in Nigeria!!