Over the course of five days, 'fat' Yvette (pictured left) received 18 messages, 74 likes and 81 visits.
A couple of years ago, I decided I'd never date anyone else who was interested in me "despite" or "regardless of" my body.
That it would also affect dating doesn't seem unreasonable.This means that fat people grow up thinking their bodies are wrong, broken, ugly, and totally-not-sexy, while those attracted to fat bodies (regardless of their own body type) grow up thinking they are broken for being attracted to them.I think it's why some will describe Dating a plus size person is hard because being a plus size person is hard.Size discrimination runs rampant, and it affects everything from healthcare to employment to media to the size of seats on public transportation to the self esteem of individuals.Maybe there'd be no need for Woo Plus, because fat individuals interested in being with someone who appreciates their fat could take to any standard dating site and not risk being told, "Sorry, you're fatter than your pictures," at an IRL meetup.
But as Schools Of Equality — a site dedicated to educating students about all facets of equality — highlights, equality isn't very feasible without equity.
And so I cannot help but feel that the problem some folks are having isn't with the over-sexualization of fat people, and specifically fat women.
But rather, with the sexualization of a group of people we're not used to being told are, in fact, sexual beings (unless they're being branded as "promiscuous" or "desperate," that is).
And it means that those not attracted to them are very rarely shy about expressing as much via "no fatties allowed" disclaimers on their OKCupid or Tinder profiles. A lot of the discomfort around the app also seems to stem from its use of terms like BBW.
As Thorpe told ASOS in the same interview, "Personally, I am also not a fan of the term BBW — it makes me feel like I am a fetish purely for men and I’m not comfortable with that." Her thoughts on "BBW" aren't uncommon, and they're certainly understandable and valid.
But I do think that much of the rest of the world does.