One of the most notable of these is a reddit user who set up a fake profile and didn’t last two hours.
He came away with the realization that women have it much, much harder on these sites: I figured I would get some weird messages here and there, but what I got was an onslaught of people who were, within minutes of saying hello, saying things that made me as a dude who spends most of his time on 4chan uneasy.
In total, I received 11 messages with 218 visitors. A few were a little more forward, and two were straight-up aggressive.
One friend brought up a message where a man had told her that because she was a ‘woman of size’, she ‘must suck good ****’. Others in the past have conducted similar experiments, setting up fake accounts on free dating websites and recording the messages they received.Cracked’s Alli Reed set up ‘the worst online dating profile ever’ and still received heaps of messages from men who wanted only to hook up with the terrible woman she had created.And if you’re serious about finding someone, make sure you don’t come across as too aggressive. No means no, and you’re not going to be able to ‘convince’ anyone to fall in love with you, and reacting with anger and threats when someone isn’t interested won’t help you. Watch for any red flags, such as disregarding your boundaries and not respecting your feelings.When going to meet someone in person, it helps to suggest you both bring along a friend.It’s creepy, and in some instances really scary – not a turn-on by any means.
Neither is asking for, or offering to send, nudes (unless they were not discussed first). Insulting other women, while looking for a woman, won’t help your chances of finding someone. Don’t be this guy and send this as your first message to a woman.
Continuing to be horrible did not dissuade any of them.
There are also instances of men, believing women ‘have it easy’ on dating websites, setting up fake profiles and being shocked by the messages they receive.
In fact, it’s not uncommon at all for women to be threatened for refusing to send nudes or insulted when they say they’re not interested in the man messaging them.
I spoke to a few friends about their experiences with online dating websites.
A lot of people, including me, turned to online dating, and Ok Cupid was all the rage.