“My friends and I talk about this all the time,” says Radu.
(Same-sex dating in Vancouver has its own set of opportunities and challenges that warrants a whole other article.)For many singles, the stepping stones to love’s distant shore are broken or missing — the appreciative or inviting smiles, casual conversations struck up on street corners, in bars, restaurants, grocery lineups and online dating offer only a small pool of confused and confusing possibilities.
“I don’t know what the problem is here,” says Jody Radu.
They don’t accept that men are what they are; the women have been burned a couple of times, they’ve read all the articles, they have a checklist: uh oh, he didn’t shave for three days. They believe their own conclusions about what a good guy is and what non-relationship material is; some weird criteria.”Kevin Quinlan, whose job as director of policy and communication for Mayor Gregor Robertson keeps him on call, even when he’s on a date, says he doesn’t buy into the idea that Vancouver is the problem.“Vancouver is an incredibly diverse place.
Generalizations obscure the fact that there are so many people with different interests.
It’s not realistic to expect instant gratification leading to lifelong fulfilment from everybody you meet.”He is also totally comfortable dating across all ethnicities.
Quinlan, who has recently found a girlfriend, has a few quirks, like reciting the lyrics to ‘90s gangsta rap songs, but he doesn’t put it all out there on a first date.Throw in the French accent and the wry sense of humour, and Lessard just might be the total package.The women at the back table of the Bottleneck bar on Granville Street are a cluster of long locks, funky accessories, a mix of tanned and fair, naturally athletic bodies and discreetly dabbed lip gloss.I don’t think it’s fair or accurate to blame the city.If someone turns you down, just don’t take it personally.Maybe the chemistry will be there in person.”For all her efforts online, there has been a zero compatibility outcome. Most of the guys wanted her photo before going further. ” (“Yes” was the only answer that could be read between the lines), the question has hung over Vancouver’s dating scene like a pall.